Don’t be a “psychological slave” in the workplace
■ Slaves of “what others think” This kind of “psychological slave” is the most common, the most destructive to creativity and personality. It is more common in people who are not mature.
“If I talk more, others will think that I am in the limelight”, “I do that, others will laugh at me” . This “other” type of thinking makes it a slave to “others” thinking.
Most of these “psychological slaves” also listen to the advice of underqualified people, which can seriously affect their creativity.
Countermeasures: ① If you can feel happy after imitating others, you may try to imitate.
Otherwise, you should live your way.
② Reasonably face other people’s other eyes, criticize and blame, because the higher the position, the more chances of being regarded as the object of chat, and the more chances of being criticized.
③ Make friends with courageous, helpful, and like-minded people.
■ “Destined to fail” slaves: This type of “psychological slave” lacks self-awareness and considers themselves small and unable to really see themselves.
They often complain that “I have no good chance”, “I will fail”, “People around me are against me”, “Leaders do not value me” . In fact, thinking itself can control the development of things. When one wants toWhatever he wants, he will really become like that.
Countermeasures: ① often use a good, positive, constructive vocabulary to suggest yourself, will increase self-confidence.
Usually try to think in terms of “why you can do it” instead of turning around “why you can’t do it”.
② I always think “I am going to succeed” and “I am a winner”. This will strengthen the belief of victory and strive to find various ways that “help success”.
■ “It’s too late” slaves: This “psychological slave” usually thinks that something should be done at a certain age.
For example, some people think that they have missed a good opportunity, and now they have to go back and forth and ride a tiger.
Some people think that they are too old at the age of 26 to go to college, and some think that they are 40 years old and cannot marry again.
Countermeasures: ① Don’t pay attention to age restrictions, and look for a living example in life.
② Don’t give up.
Work toward your ideals in a planned and step-by-step manner.
■ “Safety” slaves Many people would rather eat “big pot rice” than reform, this is the typical “safety” slave.
Lack of imagination is a common psychological characteristic of “safety” slaves.
In fact, risks exist objectively. Human survival and development are a process of continuous struggle and constant elimination of insecurity.
Countermeasures: ① Make life rich and colorful.
② Because there are risks, there will be climbing, if there are difficulties, there will be breakthroughs, if there is pressure, there will be rise, and if there are storms, there will be fighting.
Therefore, we must learn to face all kinds of difficulties and rare and unknown things.
■ The slaves of the “past mistakes” are controlled by the past trauma of failure. The fear of any new attempt is its main feature. They were once bitten by snakes and were afraid of well ropes for ten years.
They are discouraged by their failure and do not know how to draw lessons from their failure.
“Past mistakes” slaves will damage people’s ability to explore, and make people stagnant.
Countermeasures: ①If you regard failure as an investment, you don’t think it is a loss.
Some people say that Edison failed 9999 times to make the first practical light bulb, but he himself thought that he found 9999 methods that were not applicable.
② If errors can be detected in time, they cannot be regarded as errors at all.